i do like my invidia setup, but i have a cheap invidia looking ebay catback in my garage if you want it for cheap.
as for the headgasket, i would go with the metal one if you can. the organic ones are the ones that infamously blow out on the EJ25's. just because it holds 30psi doesn't mean it'll hold it for more than 30K miles. its like saying you can get 500whp on a stock block sti. you can, but not for long.
subaru basically only made two thicknesses, so its just a matter of getting the right one in the right bore size. cometic gaskets are known to blow out regularly on wrx hybrids, so i wouldnt trust them on 2.2's either.
keep in mind that the larger combustion chamber of the larger heads will drop your compression ratio, that might be what that seller was talking about.
also remember that you'll need a turbo crossmember or you'll need to notch yours.