OK, how'z about a leetle family negotiation (OK, power play)
He: OK honey, I think that all things considered we should get you a new minivan (aka beat up POS with automatic)
She: Umm, how about something a little more interesting... Mazda 5 lets say? (no effin WAY you are gonna stick me in a geek-O Mom-mobile!)
He: Great idea, I found a really nice Mazda 5 that has a 5-speed so it's super cheap on gas! The automatic ones are like $2000 more for equal age, miles etc (aka, learn the stick or we keel you, um I mean the automatic is a terrible deal and they tend to break down a lot etc etc)
He: ...and besides, Pedro will work with you on lerning the clutch and stuff.......in a Miata no less, how fun would that be?
best scenario, she loves the 5-spd, loves the Miata. You get the Mazda 5 PLUS a cool little scooter car with droptop (gets great mileage....
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