There's a spacer between the bearings, or the inner races are long enough to contact each other. Depending on what type of bearing you have, but regardless, the preload is set by default. You can't really over tighten it, you can really only under tighten the bearing.
Last time I had the misfortune of replacing tie rods on my car, I didn't get an alignment afterwards. I got the new assy. as close in length as I could to the old one. Drove it a bit to get the suspension settled, then measured the distance between the wheels. Adjusted, measured, adjusted. Drove it some to make sure everything was settled, etc. I got it spot on. Driving 80 on the highway the car would drive dead straight and not pull at all.
If you're doing both sides it's important to get one side adjusted before you do the second side. Otherwise it'll be a lot harder to get the wheel straight and everything centered.
Stripping ball joint pinch bolts is bad. It's worth taking the time not to let that happen.