well after talking with joel and justin, it seems the problem is in the back.
the front bolts you can get an impact on, so those are nice and tight. my fronts haven't moved at all that i can see.
in the rear, theres not enough room to get on them so they aren't tightend enough. so when you get home you need to take the wheel off and crank on them, or pay the tech to take the wheels off and do it for you.
im just done with messing with the damn things. i've already had two alginments to try and get them right and im NOT paying for a 3rd alignment. so im putting the stock bolts back in. running the same rear camber that i had last year and all winter. cause that hasn't changed. and i'll probaly tighten the fronts just in case.
so i was the guinea pig for the rear camber bolts, now you all know how to make it work.